An effective method of initiating Real Dialogue between individuals. When one finds themselves in the midst of a difficult conversation, it is a common habit to use the phrase "you said" in response to the other. While usually intended to clarify what was heard, this statement may inadvertently create more conflict, particularly if the "you" is heard as an accusation of the other or a deflection of responsibility. The tendency to resort to "you said" is especially strong w
