An effective method of initiating Real Dialogue between individuals. When one finds themselves in the midst of a difficult conversation, it is a common habit to respond by saying "you said". We may do this in an attempt to convey what was heard, or to reflect the other, yet this way of speaking may inadvertently create conflict. This occurs when the other person believes they have been misunderstood, or that their words were taken out of context, or even used against them.
